Today was a day that I had been looking forward to for weeks, and then again, in a way, I've been looking forward to it for months. When I started my journey into this overwhelming world which is breast cancer, I had a special woman on my side who had been there, seen it and done it. Krista was and still is my mentor as I move from diagnosis, to surgery to chemo and now into radiation. She has been my cheerleader and my advisor on all things cancer, from prune juice and xanex to hair loss and mind loss. I always wanted to do for another woman what Krista has done for me, which in a nutshell, she gave me hope. Today I met Gabbee, who I aim to inspire and befriend as she too travels down this often dark and uncertain path.
Gabbee contacted me through my blog, as she had been referred to it by a friend of her husband. After many emails we settled on a date to finally meet. Gabbee, her sister and I met in a Tempe Starbucks, halfway between her home in Florence, AZ and mine in Phoenix. We talked for almost two hours. She asked me all the questions that I remember asking Krista in the early stage of my diagnosis. I this time, was the one who had been there, done that.
I know how she is feeling, and I know how scared she is. Being diagnosed with breast cancer is absolutely terrifying. It changes your whole life in a matter of minutes. You go from living your every day reality to living your days trying to get back to that reality. Your hopes for the future become hopes that you have a future. If your mortality has ever been questioned you know and may understand, if not, it's impossible to fathom. Especially for young wives and mothers like us.
So here's to my new friend. May I offer you bit of peace during the storm, and a confidant who can honestly say "I know" and "I've been there too". We are both going to come out on the other side of this thing stronger, wiser, and in a way, better. I am honored to know you and thank you for being open to my message of hope.
p.s. You can meet my new friend Gabbee at her blogspot, and read the kindest and most heartfelt post she wrote about our meeting at www.gabbeebagby.blogspot.com